Love’s waters rise defy the impossibility of our sedentary walls – tides and emotions like sculptors reshaping the contours of opposition, softening the places where hearts meet.
Mother said: “Look after your sister!” What she meant was: Take this burden off my shoulders; I am no longer able to cope.
Father said: “Do as I say, not as I do!” What he meant was: I don’t have the wherewithal to deal with my own problems, so don’t bring me yours.
Sister said: “Be a good auntie!” What she meant was: I am too young to be a mother, and you are much more responsible, so take care of my consequences.
So I ran away to build my own life: met a man and married, bought a house, had children, and dreamed of a future that would erase the past… but
Husband said: “If you really loved me, you’d lose weight, be less effusive, control your temper, and be more supportive of my choices.”
What he meant was: I’m going to grind you so far into the ground and then I’m going to cheat and cheat and you’ll have nothing left inside to do anything about it.
And without a word, I left.
What I meant was: I am a real person with needs of my own, and despite my faults or limitations, I deserve better.
(This is an edited version of an older poem by the same name, December 2018. Image my own)