Ancient Mysteries

Ancestral circles
steeped in lore – symbolism
lost, and imminent –
Geometric rhythms play
with destiny, ascribe fates.

(For Willow Poetry’s What Do You See?  Image supplied by Hélène.)

Arachnophobia

Creativity –
eight-legged predator –
invades the decks
of my listing mind,
reproducing rapidly.

Her generous,
bejewelled appendages
skittering beneath
my plastic-boned
Caucasian frailty.

I hesitate –
friend or foe?
Should I trample
crush this invasion,
or surrender…
risk madness?

We are ocean –
bound, shoreless
prefer interior spaces
wary of open vistas
equally vulnerable
collapsible

Skittish
evaders
intent on
escape
future
uncertain…

I flee
creativity’s
lair – enter
into darker
passages

Destiny –
creativity’s cousin –
awaits, tail raised
in venomous arc –
dances a warning
does not
strike

body
glowing
phosphorus
green,
melts into
swirling,
flourescent
particles of
Kundalini
rising.

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Day 172 “Change Your Destiny”

I was five when I first learned that there was something not quite right about my grandfathers visiting me in the middle of the night.

My mother and I were sorting through a box of old photographs, when I spotted one of her father.  I dug deeper and pulled out a photo of my father’s father.  “My Grandpas!” I exclaimed.

Years later my mother told me that the hair on the back of her neck stood up that day, I frightened her so.

“Did someone else show you pictures?”  she asked.

“No, Mom,  I know them because they come visit me at night.”

“When?”  She pulled out a picture of a crowd of people and passed it to me.  I pointed to her father again.  “Yep, that’s him.”

“They come at night when everyone is asleep.”  I could see that something was upsetting her, and I didn’t want her to be mad.  “Oh don’t worry, Mom, they don’t wake me up.  They just stand at that end of my bed until I wake up, then we visit.”

“And what do you do during these visits?”

“We go to the kitchen where we won’t disturb anyone.  I ask them if I should wake you and Dad, but they say not to bother, they’re just here to see me.  We talk.  They ask me about my day, and tell me how big I am.  I take turns sitting on their knees.”

My Grandfathers, it turned out, died before I was born.  Grabbing me by the arms and forcing me to face her, my mother told me that I could not share this story with anyone else.  She told me that what I was seeing were ghosts and that other people did not see ghosts, and more importantly, people who saw ghosts would be locked away for a very long time.  “Stop seeing ghosts!”  she pleaded with me in desperation.  (I would later come to understand that an uncle of hers had been condemned to life in a mental hospital for this reason.)

I didn’t know what to think of all this.  My Grandfathers looked like everyone else, they just visited at funny times of the day.  Nothing about it had seemed out of the ordinary.

I was ten when I woke up to find my cousin and the three little ones standing at the foot of my bed.  “Tell them we’re okay,”  Willy said.  I was still struggling to fully open my eyes when they disappeared.  The chill of their presence still lingered in the room.  I decided I had better tell my parents.In the hallway, I could hear that my parents were awake, my father on the phone.  He put down the receiver just as I walked into their room.

“Willy and the kids are dead,”  I said.  “But they are okay.”

“They died in a fire,”  my father said glancing at the phone.  “How did you know?”

“They were just in my room.”

“Why didn’t they come visit me?”  my cousin Katie pouted at the funeral. “Willy liked me better. ”

“I don’t know,”  I answered honestly.  Willy did like her better.  He and I always fought, in fact, just the week before I told him I wished he was dead.  Was he punishing me?

Having caught wind of my peculiarity, my older sisters would put me to the test, trying out my abilities.  We discovered that not only could I see the deceased, but I could track down the living with some kind of freak body radar.  At eleven, I was suddenly invited to accompany them downtown, where I would use my “powers” to locate boys.

I experimented on my own, too, reading about out of body experiences and attempting to recreate the phenomena.

At fifteen, it all became too much.  My next oldest sister, Mai, was away visiting her brothers on the East coast when I suddenly knew something was wrong.   I was sitting in class, concentrating on the lesson, when suddenly I felt shooting pains in my finger.   I looked down to see that it was the same finger that wore a ring Mai had given me.  I slipped the ring off and the pain stopped.  Put it back on and the pain resumed.  My body radar was at work again, and this time it was telling me something was wrong with Mai.  The office paged into the room at that moment and asked to have me sent down.  Mai, the secretary told me, was being flown home.  My parents were picking me up shortly.  Somehow, I determined that it was all my fault.

I decided that my mother had been right.  Nothing good could ever come from this stuff.  I shut it down.

For thirteen years.

And then the wall came tumbling down, and the ghosts returned, and my body sensitivities heightened, and I saw and knew things more clearly then ever.  And people started to come to me for ‘readings’ and to talk their dead beloveds, and to see the future, and I complied, because I thought that it was my destiny.

Yet, my mother’s words always echoed in the back of my mind, and I wondered if what I was doing really was serving a purpose, or was it all just a fancy parlour trick.   Oh, there were times when I knew that I was truly able to help others, but there were also times when the message I delivered was not helpful, and sometimes maybe even destructive, and this felt all too much like I was trying to play God, and so I shut it down again after twenty years, for the most part.

But my son carries the same burden, and so it is never fully gone from my life, and I can’t help but wonder:  Was I destined to see things differently, to experience the world inside out for a reason?  Is there merit in all this?

I told my therapist some of my story, obviously still reluctant to disclose everything, given my mother’s warning.  She says some people are more intuitive than others, and make sense of the world that way.  She says people like me do not understand the logic of others, nor how they are able to draw the conclusions they do.  She suggested I just learn to trust my instincts as that is my way of being.  She doesn’t know the half of it.  If I let my intuitive side open up again, who knows what will happen?

I do believe we can change our destiny.  I know that born to a cross-dressing father, and a divorced and emotionally crippled mother, I was destined to have a challenging life, but I chose to make the best of it, determining from early on that what I was given served a purpose, and would help prepare me for my destiny.   I also know that I control the gifts that I have been given, and that I use them or not, at my discretion.  That much I have proven to myself.

Whether or not these gifts serve a worthwhile purpose, is something I have yet to come to terms with.  I don’t know what my destiny is, but I do know what I want to do my life:  I want to make a difference, alleviate suffering, empower others, and inspire change.  And I want to do it with humility and in service to others, not as some freak sideshow performer.

Destiny is a such a big, and overwhelming word.  It suggests finality and lack of free will.

“All paths lead to the same destination,” a medicine woman once told me.  “We always end up where we are meant to be.”

So is the journey all futility?  I would like to think not.

I have danced with my destiny several times, choosing to step off the path now and again.  Today, I stand in the cover of the forest, and look back at the path I have traveled and wonder, will I pass that way again?

Best Laid Plans

The man seated across the table pried me with questions.

“Who played Wendy?”  he asked.  “Was it you?”

I nodded.

“And who played the Hooker?”

“Also me.”

“Really,”  he drew the word out as if chewing on it.  “Both you?”

We were celebrating closing night at a local eatery.   My questioner was not a familiar face amongst our usual theatre crowd, but I could tell by the way others were addressing him that he held some position of esteem.

“Have you done a lot of acting?”  he persisted.

“High school, mostly.”  I loved acting, and had contemplated pursuing it at University.  Just recently, I had purchased a ticket to travel to Great Britain.  It was my plan to investigate theatre school there, hopefully Shakespearean.

“I am currently writing a play that you would be perfect for, if you are interested. You have heard of me?”

I recognized him now – playwright and critic.  He was well-known in our area, although this was my first meeting.

“I’m flattered,”  and I was.  “I am leaving for England shortly.”

“Of course you are.  It would be a shame to waste that talent locally.  If you have a change of mind, look me up, will you?”

The play had gone well.  Even though I had bit parts, apparently I had made an impression.  Maybe there was hope for me.  I looked forward to the future.

The date of my departure was fast approaching.  Disillusioned with life in my hometown, I was anxious to explore the world and embrace adventure.  To celebrate my move, my sisters threw a party.

Seven years older than me, Mae is a classic beauty with dark eyes, and a perfectly sculpted face draped with beautiful flowing brunette hair.  She stands 5′ 8″ and has curves in all the right places.  I was used to being eclipsed by Mae’s presence, but she made up for it in sweetness.

My other sister, Lily, was eleven years my senior.  Also a brunette, she was a fireball, who commanded attention and rivaled Mae for attention.

I shrank into a corner and disappeared into my dreams.  This was not my crowd.  Apart from a fellow I had been casually dating and a mutual friend of my sisters, I really didn’t know these people.  Just when I thought the night was a total loss, I heard a knock at the door.

I opened it to find Stewart at the door.  Stewart was one of Mae’s many suitors, and I knew he’d be disappointed.  Mae’s current boyfriend was also here.  I offered him a drink and some friendly conversation.  I felt bad for him.

“I’m headed to England,”  I offered.  Stewart had a very distinct British accent.

“When?”

“In three weeks.”

“Really?  I’m headed to England in three weeks.  Where are you flying into?”

“Heathrow.”

“Me too!”

“What date?”

“What date are you going?”

“The 19th.”

“Me too!”

“No way!  You are flying to England on the 19th!”

“Yes, I am.  We might be on the same flight.”

I have to admit, he had me going.  Turned out he was just playing with me.  Always fun to tease the little sister.

I busied myself in the kitchen, playing hostess.  Stewart made his move on Mae.

Last to arrive was the last to leave.  Mae had already left with her beau, and Lily was nowhere in sight.  I escorted Stewart to the door, where he paused before stepping out and turning around to face me, leaning in for a kiss.

“Good night,”  he whispered leaving me alone and slightly stunned.

What had just happened?

“Don’t pay it any mind,”  Mae told me the next day.  “He has a crush on me.”

I knew she was right, but it was me that Stewart invited out later that day.

Our courtship was a whirlwind race against the ticking of the clock and my imminent departure.  Stewart made me laugh, and caused my heart to flutter.  I couldn’t sleep, didn’t care to eat, and was certain that this was love.

He was all I could think of while in England, and I wrote to him everyday – long, lengthy letters oozing with mush.  When I’d received no reply, I finally called him.  He hadn’t received one letter.  I had sent them care of Mae, and she had forgotten to check the mail.  I couldn’t stand the emotional turmoil.

I came home.

Stewart and I would later marry and have three children, ending a seventeen year relationship in a bitter divorce.

I always wonder what might have happened, had I stayed in Britain, but I have never regretted the gift of my three children.

Isn’t it miraculous that life turns out the way it does, despite our plans to the contrary?

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