Parental Passage

Carefully we construct
security for offspring,
add luxuries to entertain,
accommodate growth
with additions, play host
to revolving-door friends.

And yet, we are graded
on performance – met
or unmet expectations –
help up against a stack
of other super parents –
silhouettes of perfection.

Still, we celebrate growing
aspirations, sprouting family,
ignore the slanders, and ease
into age with a tad of kook,
or wild inappropriateness –
all expressions of our love.

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Permission to write, paint, and imagine are the gifts I gave myself when chronic illness hit - a fair exchange: being for doing. Relevance is an attitude. Humour essential.

20 thoughts on “Parental Passage

  1. I’m lucky that my parents didn’t wait until their old age to express “a tad of kook.” 🙂 All joking aside, my compliments on a lovely reflection on the difficulties of parenting. I suppose we’ve been comparing ourselves to other humans since the pre-dawn of history, but your words rings especially true in this age of curated online “personas of perfection.”

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      1. It’s a tough pattern to break, because watching how others do things is part of our natural, instinctive learning behavior. But I find that when we’re *aware* that we’re comparing ourselves to others it sometimes takes a bite out of the feelings of inadequacy. Hope that’s true for your kids, at least …

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