In anticipation of guests,
the hostess – always bent
on pleasing – carefully selects
the script, ascribes roles,
envisions an afternoon
of light repartee, peppered
with philosophical pondering –
satisfactory entertainment.
They’re just family, after all,
she tells herself, confident
in the outcome, fatally smug.
Crowd arriving, she fails
to read disinterest in eyes,
politely attempts to orchestrate
interactions, while they cast about,
calculating, shunning protocols
of etiquette, dispersing in
an unsettling way, then returning,
savagely encircling their prey.
They’re just family, after all,
she tells herself, panic rising,
confusion overriding confidence.
Unprepared to defend herself –
bears no arms but the giving type –
she ducks, grasps, attempts
retreat from the onslaught
of vindictive agendas, but the wall
of stored grievances, spotlighting
a history of injustices, corners
her, hopelessness in its wake.
They’re just family, after all,
she tells herself, knowing
full well the legacy of pain.
It’s friends, in the end,
who save her – a surefooted
cavalry, bearing the swords of
understanding, compassion
their war cry – reigning in the
once-invited, now betraying
guests – objective hearts
demanding an end to the fray.
They’re just family, after all,
she tells them, tells herself,
composure a mere thread.
Tables turned, the offenders
now plead for forgiveness,
beg for help, pretend the slights
were unintentional, harmless,
expect their hostess to step
over the bloodied and slain bits
of herself, and with benevolence,
restore her love for them again.
They’re just family, after all,
she says weakly, the torn script
of her expectations scattered.
(My art, entitled She Stands In the Middle of It All. This poem first appeared May, 2016)
Well put across!
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Family…you can’t live with them nor without them….
Friends are such life-savers.
Poor mothers! A wonderful write, VJ.
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Thanks Punam!
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You are welcome.
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I’m over here snapping my fingers in a poetic way π
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happy mothers Day V.J. ππππ
well down and relatable.
sounds familiar…..ππ
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Lol. Thanks.
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I know right.. so welcome! π
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A really great reflection on family get togethers. They can be challenging at times. At our get togethers everyone talked at once on and on. The in-laws would huddle together in the corner, not getting a word in edgewise!! :>) Well don VJ
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Wow! This brings on memories. Many years ago, I married into a family and they didn’t get along with each other. The matriarch was the peacemaker – poor thing. She was a gem of a person and we called her Saint Nancy. She was a survivor of ovarian cancer and as she got older she had enough.
She bought a new car and a condo and went out on her own. Her kids were always there for her but her husband, with his archaic mindset, not so much. Families can be messy.
Great write, VJ!
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They sure can be messy. Thanks.
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Very interesting.
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Thanks π
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You are welcome. I reblogged it many times, but l didnβt see in the notification. So, l β¦
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For two hours nothing was showing so l sent to draft. I just reblogged another one from a different site, will track and see.
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I could be the proverbial fly on the wall here. Wow. The reality of what goes on – because it’s family – and what is excused (?) or perceived as what should go on becauseβ¦after all it’s familyβ¦can be so altered. Alternative facts perhaps. “Disinterest in their eyesβ¦.” This is really well done. Families can be such a complicated mess. Friends save us over and over.
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Amen to that. Thanks Andrea.
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Youβre welcome.
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At first, the poem was wryly amusing; then it wasn’t so funny anymore (just like real life).
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Yes, there is the underlying poke at the Mother’s expectations. thanks.
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You’re welcome, VJ.
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Reading this and “feeling” the vibes of Kendrick clan gatherings … a bit difficult to challenge any view just expounded … mostly I observe, voiceless … grateful I am not the family matriarch under whose roof these invisible walls go up and down during a coming-together of bodies and perspectives. I suspect at closing, she often feels just as your poem suggests: expectations scattered.
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Family dynamics are interesting, aren’t they? So many years of history, hidden or suppressed. Thank Jazz.
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A very poignant write. That repeating line adds to the almost naivety many of us hold about our families.
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Thanks Heather. Mothers bear much of the blame too, I feel. Actually, I’m sure fathers would say the same thing.
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You may be right. Mothers often hold to expectations vs the what is. I know I have done that.
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Wow! This is a really great piece of writing, VJ. And so spot on…
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Thanks Susan!
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We are most hurt by those we love.
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So true.
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Excellent
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Thanks π
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A great poem and this is the first time i have nanaged this on my own
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Thank you!
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great ππ
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Thanks π
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