Family Rifts

Division, the determining factor
in their relationship –
who can understand
the dynamics of blood ties?

Cracked images suggest
a camaraderie, at least
once upon a time, and who
recalls the cause of the rift?

Fixated on the anger
distance a monument
to the breach, till one dies
and the absence is cemented

(Image my own)

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Permission to write, paint, and imagine are the gifts I gave myself when chronic illness hit - a fair exchange: being for doing. Relevance is an attitude. Humour essential.

44 thoughts on “Family Rifts”

    1. In my husband’s case, there were just too many barriers to overcome, although he tried. In a rift I had with my father’s family, I just decided it was not worth the effort. It’s that only adage: we don’t chose our family…

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  2. I haven’t got to hear my daughter’s voice and almost 3 years and I’ve only got to meet my grandson a couple of times 3 years ago when my mom died and no matter what I do or try she won’t respond she doesn’t know how to fight fair or get past her resentments and I miss her so much and I love her so much and no matter what she did or would do ever I drop everything in a split second if she called and said I need you even if it was just I need you to yell at LOL I’d run there so fast. Thank you for writing this, I’m getting tired of crying everyday and resisting picking up the phone and trying to make her love me because for now anyways I have to accept this is my new normal and that I’ll probably be long gone when she figures it out, when she figures out how much love I truly have for her.

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    1. I am so sorry for what you are going through. It seems that it is not uncommon. We pray that they come around and reach out before it’s too late. All we can do is work on ourselves and hope for a better future. Thanks for sharing, and hugs to you.

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      1. Thank you, I’ve been in and out of the hospital the last little while and sick a lot so as soon as I get to the other side of this I’m going to be going to Al-Anon again. I don’t know if you go or don’t go but where I live there’s some good ones and I can sure tell when I don’t participate and everybody else can tell when I do LOL

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  3. Very sadly apt. Like everyone ever, I tell myself I’m going to avoid it, but have already failed. As anyone with convictions to argue about inevitably does.

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  9. This happens in many families. Luckily, it’s never happened in mine. I come from a large family, and none of us has ever had a falling out.

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      1. I think it wasbeing raised by good, kind parents. We children never heard them speak a harsh word to each other; if they argued, we never heard it. They expected us to mind, but never yelled at us or called us names. Though my siblings and I argued some as children, it didn’t carry over into adulthood. I think we learned by example to be kind to each other and passed it down to our children.

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