Quest for independence
born of familial dysfunction
led me down a path of dissent
Compromise, I believed
was toxic, swore against
the brutality of submission
Need no one,
depend on no one
have nothing to lose
Overlooked the joy
of interdependence –
an alien concept
Chose a lonely path,
a straggler destined
never to belong…
(Image my own)
I had to read this a couple times so that I could make sure I fully understood it, but it is powerful and also kind of summarizes how I feel right now. I don’t know many people that blog in person so it can feel a little lonely.
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Thank you for taking time to read and comment. I see that your blog targets a narrow audience – perhaps that is why. It takes time to develop relationships here. All the best.
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I appreciate your insight, do you have any advice that you maybe learned with your experience ?
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Not really. It takes a while to find your voice and make connections. Just keep blogging.
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This is so relatable. I remember for a few years, I felt I only have myself. Though I have great family and friends, I think I never really trusted them, I’m in my own world. I kept saying to myself that I needed to be strong so I will always have my choice, now I realize, I never consider any help from others on my plans.
Many things happened then I realized my family can support me even I had no ability, now I become a salted fish *laughing*
Anyway, I like this poem very much.
This is so relatable. I remember for a few years, I felt I only have myself. Though I have great family and friends, I think I never really trusted them, I’m in my own world. I kept saying to myself that I needed to be strong so I will always have my choice, now I realize, I never consider any help from others on my plans.
Many things happened then I realized my family can support me even I had no ability, now I become a salted fish *laughing*
Anyway, I like this poem very much.
(◍•ᴗ•◍)♡ ✧*。
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Ooops, I copy pasted it, sorry.
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Thanks 🙏
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I remember that feeling of fierce independence in my youth, some of that has returned recently. Yet, we all need to be needed, so it only makes sense to reciprocate that feeling, with the right person.
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It’s all about healthy balance isn’t it?
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It truly is.
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The urge to protect oneself from getting hurt can be very, very strong.
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Especially when we are young and fragile.
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It’s unfortunate we endure unpleasantness before we figure out that me, myself, and I come first before we accept others into our lives. We need others but not to depend on. I love how you tug at real-life in your poems.
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Thanks Eugi. I do lean toward the introspective, lol.
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Most welcome!
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Drawbridges up, all alone in the self built castle.
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Exactly. Not a fun place.
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No, not at all.
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Honestly how else could we respond at the time? I go over and over this issue in therapy and my therapist assures me its all part of the path, this really does resonate.
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Building independence is good. It took me years to learn that interdependence was a thing…and a healthy one. Thanks.
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Yes some lf us have to learn what that i, and that takes time and lots if mistakes along the way..
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Guilty as charged, lol.
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Stay independent…need no one…depend on no one. — wise words. Thank you for sharing this, VJ!
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Thanks Amy. The trouble is we do need others. None of us is meant to be an island. A lesson I’m glad I learned.
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I agree, VJ. I guess we just dont want to depend on others.
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I am so grateful that you grace us with your collaboration and fellowship with us in the blogasphere.
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Oh, LuAnne, what a beautiful compliment.
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Oh my. I get this. Stay independent…need no one…depend on no one. A survival mechanism from the earliest days. You hope it protects you, but it can often lead to loneliness. But what else do we know – until, if we’re lucky, we learn it is safe to be otherwise and ignorance is overcome. Your image is spot on.
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You always get me, Andrea. Thanks friend. I appreciate it.
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You’re welcome. My heart goes out to you VJ. We’ve both been on a tough road.
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We have, but look at us now!
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After all experiences speaks with composures.
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Poetic response.
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Out of where we come, where do we go? Life’s changes, grow?
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Life changes, thank goodness, and we grow.
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Lord have mercy on me, woe, woe is me. 😥
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Lol.
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Has the path a smoother bend ahead it to pass over, my friend
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I did learn, with time, thanks, Ivor.
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This is heartbreaking
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Thanks, Sadje. A path I knew all too well, until I learned otherwise.
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You’re welcome! We learn from our mistakes.
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