I started this blog in 2011 as a gift to myself. I had just undergone a lumpectomy to remove abnormal cells from my right breast, and was awaiting the results. Because of the Christmas holiday, I would not hear for five weeks. Those were five long weeks, and a whole gamut of thoughts and emotions.
Since that time, my husband has been diagnosed with and received treatment for Stage III, Prostrate cancer, and while I escaped the ‘C’ word, I am now confined to my home with ME/CFS.
But life has not been just struggle. At the same time as I awaited word, I found out that my middle daughter was pregnant with our second grandchild – a joy that never ends!
Nor were these the first challenges that I had faced in my life, just more in a long line, actually.
So why a quest? What is that a woman of mature age quests for?
Let me try to answer.
I seek a sense of autonomy in my life – to be able to feel that my decisions/ needs/ wants are not overshadowed by the dictates of another, or a past that is always looming.
I want to know what it means to feel truly empowered. To know, for once and for all, that I have laid the victim to rest and instead, embraced my authentic self.
I want to live life from a place of inner peace; a trust that no matter what life throws at me, I can continue, because I believe in myself. And in that peace, I want to know what it feels like to live without guilt, need for permission, or a sense of unworthiness. I want to be able to forgive (myself and others) in order to be free.
I want to be able to breath freely and stand firmly upon this sacred Earth and make a difference. To engage with life. To seek understanding and share passion with all people – no exclusions.
I want to live a life that at the end of my time I will want to celebrate, so that my dying words will be: I did it!
I am not there yet. As Robert Frost said, I have “miles to go before I sleep”, and so I quest on.
At least now you know what I am looking for, and if at some point you and I should meet in these pages, maybe you could share a little of your wisdom, and I might come closer to finding my own truth.